How Entrepreneurial Couples Can Get Back What They Once Had
After more than 30 years of ups and downs in my own marriage, I wrote a Manifesto on how ALL couples can gain back what they once had by focusing on two key areas:
1. Staying clear of Kryptonite
2. Paying attention to the details
Joe Shuster and Jerry Siegel created the character of Superman in the 1930s. Just like Superman was rendered incapable when he got around Kryptonite, we too, are rendered incapable when we become indifferent.
Indifference is the human form of Kryptonite
Just like Superman, we humans have indifference. This form of Kryptonite is often triggered by (but not limited to);
- words, statements or thoughts that remind us of past neglect
- emotional mistreatment or physical, sexual, spiritual, financial, mental abuse
- being told lies that create mistrust
- made to feel like you’re not good enough, you don’t measure up or that you’re not lovable.
out of a desire to protect the heart.
The good new is that the brain can process what it would mean to “love differently” just like it can how to be
indifferent. After receiving a traumatic brain injury in ’07, my world stood at a 90 degree angle with several
seizures a day depleting my strength. With sheer will and determination I taught myself to walk, talk and think
normal again. It was then that I started to understand that we can put anything into our brains that we wish
while creating whatever result we want, as long as we’re willing to work at it.
Herein Lies The Answer To Happier Marriages
So what does the brain have to do with creating a healthy marriage?
While one person’s brain can think, “My marriage sucks and I wish this pain would end.”
the liberated brain would think,
“My marriage is important to me and I’ll do whatever it takes to make it great again.”
Which person do you think will produce better results?
Here is another example: I learned to speak Italian to write Love Differently Stay Married. It took ten to twenty minutes a day,
for two months, to learn it well enough to write “Love Differently Stay Married”. After the book was published I stopped learning
the dialect. Just a few months later, I barely remembered what I learned because I stopped paying attention to it.
Taking responsibility for increasing healthier thoughts (and actions) means more unity in marriage as the outcome.
Indifference = Division
Emotionally Connecting = Unity
Paying Attention To Unity
Thriving couples consciously stay away from indifference, by paying close attention to emotionally connecting.
I live what I teach. I’d never know the joy of bringing back what we once had, in a new and exciting way, after 33 years of
marriage if we had given up. That newness never has to wear off. You just might need to put a better system in place to restore it.
Very soon I’ll be launching a system that will revolutionize marriages for the future and give you that system I’m referring to.
I’ve been testing it, and it works whether you’re an entrepreneur, a stay at home mom or dad or a leader in the corporate
world. This can work for anyone who is in a faith conscious relationship. This isn’t about soft and fluffy, on the contrary, its
about authentically connecting in a genuine way that generates unity on every level that’s important to both of you.
I don’t know about you, but I’m tired of seeing marriages fall apart when in reality what couples need to do is UNITE.
No one says relationships have to be done my way, or anyone else’s but yours and God’s way. That is what I aim to show you.
My system doesn’t have to be done in the morning or the afternoon, in fact it can be done whenever you want.
There are several ways to make this unique to you and I go in depth on how to do that in 5 Secrets To An Irresistible Marriage.
In the system I include faith, hope and love, and of course, the greatest of these is LOVE. I can’t wait to hear your feedback.
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first to know when we launch the 5 Secrets System. I’m looking so forward to couples getting back to what they once had; Joy.